For many years I worked in consultation and engagement services across a number of organisations. My role was to go out into the community and find out what they thought of something - a policy, a publication, an issue, a community, a development - and distill that down to report it back to decision makers.... Continue Reading →
Online Tabboo
"Don't worry, I'm happy to lie about how we met! ;-)" That line, or variations on it, is one I've seen on no small number of profiles. It says "I am embarrassed to be here, and no doubt you are too; we're better than this. I don't want anyone to know I've resorted to online... Continue Reading →
Dress to impress
Clothes maketh the man, or so they say (whoever "they" are). This was never a problem for me in my previous life. I had four types of clothes: work clothes (suits, shirts), wedding clothes (with a little work clothes crossover), daily clothes (jeans, t-shirts) and nice clothes (nicer jeans, nicer t-shirts). The latter group was... Continue Reading →
First date chatter
I talk for a living. Okay, technically I sell software and digital engagement, but essentially I get paid to talk to new people and get them to feel like we have a positive relationship together. I've been doing this for years and am still paid for it, so I know I'm fairly good at it.... Continue Reading →
The Approach
Youth brings a number of things. A lack of bills to pay. A constitution that can handle more than two nights of heavy drinking on a row. An overinflated sense of confidence that gets you through things you don't know that you should be scared of doing. It's this last one that got me my... Continue Reading →
Getting the “action” shot
When I started putting together things for my online dating profiles I did my research. I'm not one to leave things to chance and have no qualms about learning from other's mistakes, so I promptly jumped onto Google and searched out some of the advice out there. Armed with that (often conflicting) advice I trawled... Continue Reading →
I Ghosted Someone And This Is Why I Don’t Regret It
Ghosting is generally a bad thing, or so I’ve been told. However, it’s also important to remember that not every situation is the same.
This really interesting piece is from courtneydercqu.com and is well worth a read.
For a brief three-month window, I “dated” this dude named Craig. His name’s not really Craig, but I can only assume this is a really Craig-like thing to do.
Attention: To anyone reading this named Craig, don’t be this guy, OK?
Craig is what Vince Vaughn would probably refer to as a stage five clinger. Like, he wasn’t terrible and you could kind of tell he was just desperate for love, but his approach made you kinda want to run away from that senator’s luxury mansion (I love “Wedding Crashers”).
To read the rest of this article, please check out the full version on Elite Daily.
From Russia with ambivalence
I’ve a list of elements my perfect woman would have. It’s massively overambitious I know, and this woman would be way out of my league, but it’s important to have dreams. My perfect woman would be gorgeous, would prove her smarts by being a scientist of some kind and would be looking for the right... Continue Reading →
Tell Me-me about it
I bloody love memes, so when I saw this I simply had to share... via The meme lover in me made me do it. — Surviving Online Dating: