"Play it mean and keep them keen". So says the dating advice that has been handed down from generation to generation. The psychological idea behind this old adage is one of scarcity increasing desirability; if your positive feedback and comments are rarer then the other person will crave them more, and will therefore work harder... Continue Reading →
How can I trust after divorce?
You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough.Frank Crane Trust is one of the most powerful of emotions. It enables us to put our lives, our hearts and our dreams in the hands of another and allow them to help us live. It creates... Continue Reading →
When is it time to be online official in a relationship?
It's been six months and things are going well. You've had the conversations and things are official, you're exclusive and happy. On a date night you take a great selfie snap and realise that there's nothing stopping you sharing it online with your friends and family. So, what's stopping you? This was the sort of... Continue Reading →
Long distance relationships
There was a recent survey shared a while ago where single people were asked how long they would be willing to travel to find love. I expected to see people hovering around the hour mark, maybe slightly longer. After all, if you're interested in someone then you'll make the extra effort to actually see them,... Continue Reading →
Dating the Brexit opposition
On the morning of Friday 16 August 2019 I made my first appearance on Good Morning Britain, the ITV breakfast show which covers the full breadth of life and news across Britain. I'd been asked on to discuss whether or not I'd ever date someone who felt differently about Brexit to me. Whilst my opposite... Continue Reading →
How to ask questions on dates
I was watching a Matthew Hussey video recently (Please don't judge me...) and in it he spent quite some time talking about building a connection using questions. He used an analogy about not wanting it to be like a tennis match of questions and answers and more like a football game of keepie-uppies. Now, weirdly... Continue Reading →
Why I love the Twitfam
I've been relatively blessed in life (despite believing in a grand total of zero gods) in that I've somehow managed to gain some great friends over the years. I made a decision very early on in life to try to only surround myself with people who make my life better in some way, and boy... Continue Reading →
Marginal Gains
Getting better at something is hard. Like, really hard. Although it has been debunked, the common adage of 10,000 hours of practice being needed to make you an expert at something* demonstrates that significant improvements are not something that come along overnight. It's easy to accept this when it comes to learning a new skill,... Continue Reading →
The financial cost of dating for men
Often surveys can be taken with a pinch of salt. Nobody really knows if eight out of ten cats actually prefer Whiskers, and nobody really cares if 51% of Americans think storms affect Cloud computing. Surveys rarely churn out any new info, but sometimes they do reinforce a belief you may already have. Such was... Continue Reading →