How to win at divorce

Recently, over on Twitter, someone asked for some advice on divorce. They were going through a breakup and the subsequent legal wranglings and, like most of us who go through that awful experience, felt a little lost. Divorce is hard, as is breaking up with anyone you love and have built a life with. At... Continue Reading →

June 7, 2020 0

Time to talk to the kids about racism

The US is on fire right now. Literally and metaphorically. The murder of George Floyd by police officers in Minneapolis shocked the nation to the point of action, with millions joining overwhelmingly peaceful protests across the country which have been used by their government to justify brutal responses from "law enforcement" officers. People are being... Continue Reading →

June 2, 2020 1

Why men are idiots when it comes to being single and mental health

Many years ago I was called into the office one Friday towards the end of November. I was a youth worker at the time, and had just won funding to set up and run a young fathers project as I'd been astounded at the lack of support for young dads at the point I'd become... Continue Reading →

May 25, 2020 2

A day in the life of a working single parent in lockdown

7.30am Sounds like some of the kids are stirring downstairs, I can hear them in the kitchen making breakfasts. I hope they don't make loads of mess again. Shall I get up now? My first meeting isn't until 10.00am, so there's no need for a super early start. Nah, I'm going to make the most... Continue Reading →

May 21, 2020 5

Top five fictional couples

Fiction gets it very wrong indeed when it comes to romantic couples. Whether it's Anakin and Padme (why a cultured galactic senator would be attracted to a petulant child is beyond me), any of the throuple from Twilight or Ted and Robin from HIMYM, writers seem to totally and utterly miss the mark when it... Continue Reading →

May 17, 2020 0

A bit of a break

Time for a midweek parenting tale to break the monotony of dating posts, with "break" being the operative word. I've led a fairly charmed life when it comes to serious injuries. Until I started playing Australian Rules Football in my twenties I'd never broken a single bone in my body. Even now, all I've done... Continue Reading →

May 14, 2020 1

Why writing a dating blog is bad for dating

Having 10,000 spoons when all you need is knife isn’t ironic, it’s bad planning by the caterers. A free ride when you’ve already paid isn’t ironic, it’s bad timing at the fairground. A traffic jam when you’re already late isn’t ironic, it’s you being an idiot and expecting the Dartford Bridge to be moving smoothly... Continue Reading →

May 10, 2020 6

Virtual Dating Tips

Being in lockdown sucks for single people who want to date. There is simply no way to do any of the old things as they used to be done; no going to bars to meet people, restaurants for dates or singles events to maximise your chances of finding love. If you match with someone online... Continue Reading →

May 3, 2020 0

Out of the blue

With Game of Thrones ending so badly (which I'm both furious and curiously ambivalent about at the same time) it reminded me of possibly my favourite ending of any series ever - The Sopranos. Normally I'd add a spoiler alert here, but if you've not seen it by now you probably never will, and the... Continue Reading →

November 24, 2019 4

Introducing my kids

When I started this blog years ago it was intended to track my thoughts about dating and not really all that much more besides. I'd never done it before, and needed to find a way to process things without paying for a therapist. The title for it sort of popped into my head out of... Continue Reading →

November 20, 2019 2

A Dating Dad