Picture the scene: you’re at a beautiful home with the person you are growing to love. An open fire is burning with the occasional snap, while an Etta James record crackles seductively in the background. The first bottle of wine is almost gone. You feel complete. Happy. Sexy. You catch each other’s gaze and move... Continue Reading →
40 and single
Tomorrow I turn 40. In fact, unless you read this the day it is published I already have. 14 September 2020 sees me roll from my thirties into my forties, and takes me out of an entire bracket of age groups forevermore. And I'm still single. Don't get me wrong or misunderstand me; I'm not... Continue Reading →
Silence is golden
Communication in friendship is important. In fact, it's so important that without it there's a good chance that the friendship itself won't survive. In some friendships there will be little communication for months on end, yet when it eventually happens it's as if there had never been any gap. Neither side holds any grudges or... Continue Reading →
Don’t belittle hope
(Geek Alert) While most of the recent additions to the Star Wars cinematic universe have been utterly awful - and by "recent" I mean anything after 1983 - the release of Rogue One was a welcome change from the Jar Jar Binks/Snope/your-mother jokes that have made the rest of them nearly unwatchable. A recurring motif... Continue Reading →
In defence of online dating
Recently the ever-wonderful Lucy shared a tweet asking for stories about online dating for her forthcoming radio show. As the responses started flowing in I quickly spotted a pattern; overwhelmingly, from men and from women, people were sharing their disdain, dislike and in some cases hatred for online dating. Stories were shared of people being... Continue Reading →
The subtle art of acceptance
A scar simply means you were stronger than whatever tried to hurt you If you have no scars, then you need to ask yourself whether you've ever truly lived. Be they physical scars from accidents on motorbikes, mental scars from the time you made a fool of yourself at the Christmas party or emotional scars... Continue Reading →
Twitter is not Tinder
Repeat after me: Twitter is NOT Tinder. Say it ten times. Then say it some more. Say it until you believe it, and then tell your friends. Because far too few people understand the differences between these two monolithic digital beasts for my liking. For those wondering what this is all about, let me start... Continue Reading →
Using sales lessons to find love
As I've mentioned before, in my day job I work in sales and have done since the end of 2016. Over the years I have undertaken a number of sales training courses and become quietly proficient at it all even if I do say so myself. My move to sales and undertaking all of these... Continue Reading →
Why writing a dating blog is bad for dating
Having 10,000 spoons when all you need is knife isn’t ironic, it’s bad planning by the caterers. A free ride when you’ve already paid isn’t ironic, it’s bad timing at the fairground. A traffic jam when you’re already late isn’t ironic, it’s you being an idiot and expecting the Dartford Bridge to be moving smoothly... Continue Reading →
Virtual Dating Tips
Being in lockdown sucks for single people who want to date. There is simply no way to do any of the old things as they used to be done; no going to bars to meet people, restaurants for dates or singles events to maximise your chances of finding love. If you match with someone online... Continue Reading →