Getting better at something is hard. Like, really hard. Although it has been debunked, the common adage of 10,000 hours of practice being needed to make you an expert at something* demonstrates that significant improvements are not something that come along overnight. It's easy to accept this when it comes to learning a new skill,... Continue Reading →
Being better, not bitter
It appears to be a truism, that after adultery the guilty party walks away winning, leaving their partner with no relationship, self-doubt, low self-esteem, trust issues and all sorts of other problems. There are pithier ways of saying it, but it's rarely the "victim" that comes out on top, at least in the short to... Continue Reading →
Learning to think differently after divorce
I like to learn new things. The process of discovering things for the first time, enjoying them, delving deeper, understanding and trying them out is fascinating and fun, whether it's painting, dancing, reading or sword fighting. Many moons ago, when I used to run educational courses for young people, I decided to spend a little... Continue Reading →
Feedback
Recently I went on a slightly unusual date. I won’t go into details, but at the end of it I had the opportunity for something pretty unusual (at least in my own experience). No, not that, you filthy-minded reader; I got feedback from my date. After the bill had been paid we got the chance... Continue Reading →