One of my favourite phrases is one I learned when I took part in a sailing race a few years ago: A calm sea doesn’t make for a skilled mariner As with learning more from defeat than from victory, it points out that the more challenging the situation, the more you learn about it and... Continue Reading →
How to win at divorce
Recently, over on Twitter, someone asked for some advice on divorce. They were going through a breakup and the subsequent legal wranglings and, like most of us who go through that awful experience, felt a little lost. Divorce is hard, as is breaking up with anyone you love and have built a life with. At... Continue Reading →
Introducing my kids
When I started this blog years ago it was intended to track my thoughts about dating and not really all that much more besides. I'd never done it before, and needed to find a way to process things without paying for a therapist. The title for it sort of popped into my head out of... Continue Reading →
Hurry up and meet her, Dad!
Recently I was lucky enough to go to New Orleans for work. We headed out there early, spent a few days doing tourist and culture stuff (ie drinking heavily) before doing a little work (and more drinking). Meant that I didn't see my kids for a little longer than normal, and so when I returned... Continue Reading →
Parental Logistics Suck
I used to joke that my first child changed everything, but after that the rest were simply a matter of logistics. It's sort of true; the first time you do it, everything about your life changes. You go from only being responsible for yourself to having another human life entirely and utterly dependant upon you.... Continue Reading →
How to celebrate your birthday as a single parent
Birthdays are strange things. They hold such promise on paper - the opportunity for fun surprises, thoughtful gifts and time spent with the people who care about you the most. They are a time for you all to reflect back on completing another trip around the sun, and to celebrate all the good things you... Continue Reading →
Travelling with kids
I've recently returned from our first ever family holiday abroad. Back in the day we never had enough money to go away, but thanks to an extra commission payment I decided to go right ahead and do it. What's that? You think it was instead an excuse to blow my ex's trip to Butlins out... Continue Reading →
Step-off
Recently I found myself chatting with someone I'd met online. The number of kids I have came up as we chatted and flirted and talked about setting up a date, along with the fact that they're not sure they could take on that many and survive. This is not an uncommon issue - probably half... Continue Reading →
Twitter roundup – part two
Double lazy post alert! Earlier in the week you may have seen me sharing some of my Twitter posts with y'all. In that first post I shared mostly posts about dating and being single, but that's only half of what this blog is about. Today comes some other posts looking at my constant struggles with... Continue Reading →
Setting up my kids for therapy
Being a parent is difficult at times; the strops, the arguments, the chores, and that's just me. Get four mini versions of me involved and I stand little chance. That's why I am making it my mission to ruin them over time. As a parent you are in a position of power in that, generally... Continue Reading →