Why do I prefer being in a couple?

I’m discovering more and more dating and relationship blogs as I spend more time in the dating world, and some of them are pretty good. Okay, not all of them, but there are some corkers out there for sure.

One of those I’ve signed up to and enjoy is Becauseysheblogs, which is from the perspective of a young woman in London and her journey through the dating scene. Recently she put up a nice listicle piece on reasons why being in a relationship with you is the best kind of relationship. Go on, take a read now.

I can’t knock any of it. Having time for hobbies, time for family and friends, and being able to be gross is great. I’ve only really been single for a really short period of time, so still feel like I have a lot to learn when it comes to single life.

That being said, I honestly don’t think I’m built for single life.

Don’t get me wrong here though; I’m not saying it’s not a lot of fun. I’ve been to more evenings out, had more new experiences and had more fun since the fateful breakup than I have had in years. Decades even, perhaps. I’ve not had to worry about being back at a certain time of night, nor the looks of disapproval the next day when I recount tales of bouncy castles and fending off duck attacks at night-time picnics.

But that being said, I really like having someone significant in my life. Apparently, single people are happy when it’s summer, but when the nights get longer and the cold weather rolls in singletons start pairing off in order to have someone warm to snuggle up with at night in front of the tv.

I guess I’ve never known any different, so I’m firmly there already. I’ve hated watching the latest series of Game of Thrones by myself and having no-one to gossip about who’s next to be killed off, or having someone to call to let them know that my plane has landed safely. I love having someone who will stroke my hair absently while reading with my head in her lap, or who will accept a cup of tea if I make one.

That being said, I also love the idea of having a partner who will be fun enough to be spontaneous, who will challenge, excite and surprise me and who will introduce me to new experiences both indoors and out.

I do like spending time by myself, but I prefer to do so through choice rather than being forced to. I have plenty of things to do, places to go, hobbies, interests and more. I am a busy person, even when I’m doing nothing. Because life with my children is so busy, I appreciate the downtime when they aren’t here.

But I’ll always be a couple person who is single rather than the other way around. I am looking forward to eventually being in a position to settle back into a relationship should I find the right person at the right time.

After all, that extra cup of tea isn’t going to drink itself.

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  1. I love this entry! I think you’re very brave to understand you’re more comforted in a coupledom than in the singular. I was not built for the single life either, but here we all are… some broken, some healing. I think it’s crucial to get out and have those new experiences. I subscribed to your blog and hope you’ll subscribe to mine. Maybe we can trade parenting tips, I have a large crew myself!

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    1. Thanks! It was an interesting realisation to realise that I’m not meant to be single; I’ll enjoy it while it lasts, but will hope it doesn’t last too long.

      I play golf sometimes (very badly, I may add), and the object of golf seems to be to play the least amount of golf possible. Fewer swings = a better player.

      I guess it’s the same with dating! Enjoy the swings, but hopefully there’ll be as few as possible before I’m no longer needing to play again.

      I’ll definitely check your blog out, and parenting tips are ALWAYS welcome!!!


  2. I completely relate to this as well. As self described relationship girl single life is not something I enjoy. Yes it can be fun at times but I enjoy sharing my day with someone when I get home or experiencing things as a couple. Thanks for being honest about this topic- so many people say love yourself and learn to be alone – yeah, yeah, that is mostly coupled people telling you to do that. Take a look at my blog if you get a chance, I write from the heart about my breakups and many, many lessons learned from them all.

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    1. Thanks! Glad to know I’m not alone on this – almost everywhere else goes firmly down the “love yourself first” route.

      I’ve followed your blog; any lessons you share will be very gratefully received!

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      1. I agree you do have to love yourself or at least like yourself, but that should be whether you are in a relationship or not.


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