For the first decade of my working life (and a few years before that as a volunteer), I was a youth worker. I worked with the brightest of the bright kids, who would go on to British Youth Council work, UN representation and more, right the way through to those kids who were at the... Continue Reading →
Decorating at Will
Some things from the late 90's/early 00's were firmly of their time and should've been left there. Had the Spice Girls, Tamegotchies, happy slapping, Beanie Babies and the Macarena all been consigned to the history bin then I, for one, wouldn't have been in the slightest bit upset. Will & Grace, however, does not fall... Continue Reading →
Let’s discuss your intentions
I've recently mentioned that I've joined a local group for single people, and it continues to throw up some real gems. After recently being told that I should effectively read every word of a book before judging whether or not I like it, next up was being told how quickly to test the depth of... Continue Reading →
Advice for a newly single dating dad
Over the past 12 months or so I've well and truly found my dating feet. Prior to that I hadn't dated in a long, long time; in fact, arguably, I'd never actually dated in my life. As a teenager you don't really date, you just lead some weird, experimental lifestyle before you cop off with... Continue Reading →
Are you local?
It was the first date I'd been on post-breakup. I didn't know what to expect. She'd described herself as fun loving, energetic and someone who loved travelling. sounded good. Sounded exactly like the sort of person I wanted to meet. I was naive. I believed her. With not a hint of exaggeration, she had left... Continue Reading →
Judge away
There are few things I hate more than gherkins. People who put pens which don't work back into the drawer. Relentlessly positive or negative people. Arsenal fans. But above all of those groups, even Arsenal fans, are naive utopians. A friend recently added me to a local singles group on Facebook. A cursory look through... Continue Reading →
Negative Nancy
"I'm sorry, but I just can't see how it would work long term". That's the line I heard from someone I started chatting with on POF recently. She lived near me, had a kid and had explicitly said in her bio "would definitely be willing to date someone who also had kids". The flirting was... Continue Reading →
Fuck Valentines Day
Note: if you are not a fan of the profane, go no further. ... Fuck Valentines Day. There. I've said it. After being a sucker for twenty years I've finally found myself ready to say it. I've bought hundreds of roses over the years. I even made a bunch when I had no money by... Continue Reading →
Who am I?!
According to my Facebook feed, Millenials have apparently discovered Friends and they are not happy about it. Not happy at all. They are criticising a show which is 20 years old for displaying attitudes which were not only of their time but in many cases ahead of it. That's not good enough for our millennial wunderkinds;... Continue Reading →
Gym Might Fix It
Last week someone I know locally shared a little gem on Facebook: “This area is full of really fit people who have broken hearts.” She works out a lot, you see, and has noticed a common theme amongst those she shares sweat-space with. I’ll admit, I’m only halfway towards joining that particular crowd. For the... Continue Reading →